You Teach People How To Treat You.
You teach people how to treat you, yes you do.
You show them how to respect you by how you respect yourself.
You teach them your boundaries are sacred, not to be violated, by how you respond when they are violated.
If you accept people taking advantage of you with a small smile, well then, you have taught them it is okay to overstep and override your wishes. They will do it again and again.
You teach people how important your time is with how you protect your minutes. You show up when promised and take your leave when the interaction is complete. You frown at lateness and/or no-show and express your displeasure about it. When you dismiss their tardiness you show them your time is not important.
You teach people how to treat you by how you treat yourself. If you accept it once they will see it as permission to walk all over you again whenever they can.
You teach people.
If you show them that your values and dignity are non negotiable you teach them to not even dare.
You teach people how to listen to you when your voice is clear and your conviction strong. When you look them in the eye even when your knees are knocking and your hands are shaking.
You teach them to respect your NO and value your YES. You teach people how to treat you. So make sure you treat yourself well.